Fuck Balance
Feeling drained is a part of life that I used to think I could avoid.
Balance is always a suggested solution to the problem of stress and overwhelm but I think balance needs to be kicked off it’s big fat pedestal because it’s boring AF.
When I think about a successful or happy life, I do not equate it with balance. In fact I equate it with lots of highs, lows and in betweens that overall make for a multifaceted FULL life experience.
Even if a successful life = balance for you, question that…what even is balance for you? Is it avoiding highs and lows? Is it feeling in control at all times? Is it even a human experience?
We do not live in a vacuum, our environment cannot be fully controlled and therefore we can only adjust ourselves in relation to it. If life was a reliable system, then perfect balance could be achieved but as we know…it isn’t.
3 Reasons we need to stop measuring ourselves up against BALANCE:
1: No one has ever lived in complete balance for a lifetime, nor a full month.
2: No ones threshold for stress stays the same over time. Life is VaRiAbLe. Your definition of balance is VaRiAbLe.
3: No one gets a reward for living in a balanced state at all times.
I already see the pattern in my own life, specifically in business or even parenting. Often life is a cycle of trying something new > trial and error > learning > feeling confident with what you know > applying it > Chilling and feeling in control > Getting Bored (cuz it feels easy for too long) > life throwing a curve ball or you changing the goal post > Adjusting yourself > Start all over.
None of that process exists in perfect balance. In fact nothing natural is perfectly consistent. Every season is different, flowers bloom every spring but the exact day depends on the weather and a multitude of environmental variables.
So anyways, all this to say fuck balance. Living life to the fullest comprises of sometimes being drained, confused, unsure, lost, sad and overwhelmed. Just as much as it will be energetic, confident, sure, happy and motivated…
Zoom out to see the bigger picture!
Measure yourself against your humanity… are you going through a human experience?Is it a new experience for you or do you already know yourself in this scenario? What are you getting to know about yourself? What are the signs you feel overwhelmed and what helps you feel supported?
Lately I have realized that my ability to tackle new challenges is directly related to how supported I feel.
When I feel seen and supported by my friends, family and my partner…even my kid for that matter…I can handle so much!
The comfort of feeling like I am at the right place at the right time even amidst stress and uncertainty is 100% because everyone in my life sees me, knows me, understands me, trusts me and is there for me.
Let people see and support you…or find new people <3
