Note to Self…

Laugh at yourself for thinking you can do it all. You are a human, a social animal, a spiritual being wired for connection and love. You cannot do everything alone.

You may try to find solutions by scouring the many file cabinets in your head. Or tell every soul close to you what battles you’re fighting. But you will only find rational connections and understandings that flatten the everyday magic of life.

Remember that your feelings are guides and not oceans to drown in. Your brain is for analytical pursuits, not emotional growth. Your heart is yearning for more because it wants to be seen.

When you get lost in the overwhelm and start validating your feelings through repetitive discussions and psycho-analysis, call your therapist. Or sit with yourself and ask the questions she would...

1. What exact emotion are you feeling?
   (Look at the wheel of emotions, there are many we forget about.)

2. Where in your body do you feel the emotion the most.
   (Use the chakra system as a visual, because we rarely feel emotions in our hands. Instead they are usually located between or on an energy center.)
   *If you are new to identifying emotions you may need to meditate on it.

   Using your 5 senses, describe what the emotion feels, look, smells, sounds or tastes like. It might feel silly but it helps to fully acknowledge the feeling.

3. When was your earliest memory of this feeling?
   How old were you? Where were you? What was happening? How did it feel to feel this way?

4. What did your younger self want in that scenario?
   Usually we didn’t get our emotional need met and this is why we get stuck in this emotion, because we weren’t comforted out of it.

5. Can you give that to yourself now?
   Can you or a person involved give you want you need to feel better?

Congratulations, you have fully felt & explored your emotional turmoil. You may still feel tired and drained, that normal. The more you repeat this cycle, the faster you will know your triggers and be able to fulfill your need before you drown in sorrow. You are precious and your body is magic!

PS. Thank the souls that listened to you rant and ramble <3